Ordinary outgoing

"Ivan Ilych's life had been most simple and most ordinary and therefore most terrible." After reading the text it seems the that Ivan's life, although it was eventful, did not stand out.  He had the job, a wife education and even a family.  The one thing that he seemed to lack was a connection with the people around him.  When they went to his funeral, they were only concerned to what they could get out of the event.  His problem seems to be connecting with people, which can be dangerous because one can not be happy without it.  At the end he finally made this connection and it prepared himself, at the last minute, for death.  In my opinion the ordinary that the author speaks of is not the same definition as to what we are used to.  The ordinary is that he was not very outgoing, which is probably why he could not make these connections.